Obsession: Addressing the next incident
Compulsion: Avoiding, fixing, and easing pain
When you think about caretaking, what comes to mind? Many people associate caretaking with helping those who are old or sick, like adult offspring assisting a parent. In this case, caretaking refers to individuals who are too busy focusing on the needs of others to do anything for themselves.
This addiction takes on several forms. For instance, the sufferer may feel compelled to “rescue” those around them because it nourishes their self-esteem. The more they do, the better they feel. Some have to control how others behave, even if doing so damages or completely destroys relationships. Enabling is another form of caretaking. Whatever it’s form, caretaking hurts our sense of who we are, weakens healthy relationships, and brings countless struggles.